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How to Survive 30 Years of Marriage

My husband and I just celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary.

Being married for 30 years is significantly more impressive than 25 years, although the 25th anniversary is typically the one that gets the big party and all the attention.

It’s a whole new decade of marriage. It’s like turning the big 3-0 as compared to 25.

Since I got married at 26, the “married me” years now clearly outnumber the “not married me” years.  This is just one more sign of being middle aged that occurs to me at 2 a.m.

I have reached the point of being married where others ask for my advice.

What is the secret to a successful marriage? First of all, just because you are married for a long time does not mean the marriage is successful. It may mean you haven’t figured a way out that doesn’t result in a jail sentence or homelessness. Several times during our 30 years both of these possibilities forced us to suck it up and “work out” our differences.

I believe having a very big house is the key to a happy marriage.

Summer Music Highlights: The Stuff You Didn’t See

What an amazing summer I’ve had, filled with live music, festivals and 100 percent humidity. And while it may be coming to an end (the season, not the music!), it doesn’t mean we can’t look back on some highlights that you- our dear readers- didn’t get to see…

Phish @ Dick’s Sporting Goods Park in Commerce City, CO. – 9/4

We had the best seats in the house.

OK, so I didn’t really go to the show, but my friend and I attended a live stream of the webcast at the Roy Arias Theater in Times Square and it was AWESOME. Every phan knows that half of the reason Phish shows are so fun is because of the vibe in the crowd. So when you pack a small theater with a bunch of hippies and let them freely blaze, drink beer and dance, it’s not hard to feel like you’re right there in Colorado with everybody else.

Theater, arena, grassy field- it don't matta.

There was a large screen on the stage of the auditorium projecting the concert, and because it was a webcast put on by the band, the cameramen were filming them so closely it was as if we were standing right there onstage. Even the set-break felt like a set-break at an actual Phish show, with people commenting and analyzing the songs that had just been played, and trying to call what the second set opener would be. When the show was over my friend and I legit felt like we had just gone to a Phish concert- it was a truly magical experience. Who says hippies don’t like technology?